You feel close in some ways yet sharing too much makes you feel exposed and vulnerable. Your thoughts intrude with ‘What if they can’t handle who I really am’? Yet, withholding intimate feelings, whether physical, emotional, spiritual or mental can sabotage any inroads to a real connection.
One of the more fulfilling experiences in life is deep connection with another. Fear of that connection can cause us to keep our distance and not let ourselves be known to another. Many times, this stems from trust issues, feelings of shame or being a victim of inappropriate control that has yet to be dealt with. It’s so much easier to ‘go it alone’ than to examine our deep pain. The truth is, once you start the work and uncover some underlying issues, it’s no longer so painful and life can blossom in a satisfying way. Often our hesitation at seeking real solutions is from our fear of what we might discover. For many of us, that discovery is usually something we had a hunch about already. Our real surprise should be how it has driven our life for the past many years!